He or she must be the most amazing person you’ve ever met in your life. They could be everything you made D’ua for, down to the very last word. It might look like a fairytale where everything is seemingly perfect. And then, reality happens. The reality that no matter how good your partner is, they are not perfect. That more than once or twice, they are going to mess up. And in some cases, they are going to mess up BIG TIME. Or your relationship is going to face a period of stagnation after the honeymoon phase is over. It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong happening. It’s a completely normal passing phase. Hence, we come to the most important marriage advice - your happiness should NOT depend upon your partner because if it does, you are going to suffer big time. Now, that doesn’t mean you must not get emotionally attached to them or stop letting them into your heart. It just means that your cup of self love must be full before you share it with somebody else. You can’t share from a half filled or empty cup. The healthiest of relationships happen between two people who are comfortable in their own skin and happy in their own lives before they decide to share that happiness with somebody else. Here’s why it’s important to love yourself before you commit into a marriage: 1. Self love is attractive When you love yourself, flaws and perfections coupled together, you become a more beautiful, confident and happier version of yourself. You begin to radiate a different kind of contagious happiness which makes you all the more attractive - to your partner, friends, family and everybody you meet. Self love actually makes you more loveable. 2. You keep regret at bay Many many people miss their single life soon after they are married. Why? Because they feel like they have left many of their single-life dreams unaccomplished. Now here’s the thing, if you are satisfied in your single life, do whatever you want to do as a singleton and then proceed towards marriage. You stand a much better chance of being content in your married life. It’s so not good to proceed into a marriage thinking what you COULD HAVE done earlier when you were single. 3. You become independent Once you love yourself i.e you choose to become your own best friend, nothing really holds the power to spoil your day or life. You can easily wait for your ideal partner without feeling pangs of loneliness because you are there for yourself and you love it. 4. You accept yourself and others Nobody in this world is perfect and once you start loving yourself along with your flaws, it will become easier for you to see, accept and love other flawed beings. You will begin seeing yourself and others in a more positive light. Once you come to terms with your own self, you become more accepting towards others as well. 5. You regain confidence When you are not satisfied with your looks or the way you talk, you tend to lose your confidence and happiness. What would your marriage be like when you are feeling inadequate? Loving yourself would help you to get the best out of yourself and your relationship. So, there you have it. The first step in your journey to finding your ideal life partner actually begins with you. So, look inwards … and learn to love the wonderful person you are.